“Tell the people you love that you love them.”

I got a recent ask on Tumblr about why I’ve begun to add this phrase to the end of my shows, streams, and panels.

It’s to remind me, and everyone, how important it is to actually say out loud, that you love the people you love. Whether they’re family, extended family, lovers, children, friends, friends-turned-found-family, even pets. Every single one of the people you love deserves to hear that. And you deserve to hear it in return.

I didn’t get the chance to say it to Granny before she died earlier this year, and I wouldn’t want my worse enemy to go through the grief I have over not having that chance, and feeling like they didn’t express their love to the people who have gone before.

From the Mail Box #1

Occasionally I do get some comments that aren’t from princes of a far-away land offering me a lot of money to do particularly sketchy things! Mark wrote in and said:

you should do double dare at cons

Fun Fact, this could mean one of two shows! There was a game called Double Dare that aired in the 1970s starring Alex Trebek with one heck of a ‘fro. It was a fairly involved Q&A show, where strategy played a key role in controlling how many clues your opponent got to see. It only lasted from 1976-77 and then faded into obscurity (though its theme song was reused for the much more popular Card Sharks).

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Or there’s the kids’ game show that aired on Nickelodeon and Fox in the 1980s into the ’90s. Two teams of kids answered much easier questions and did a lot of messy stunts to win some surprisingly cool prizes (all the way up to a minivan for the Family Double Dare series!). This Double Dare got a really solid revival on Nickelodeon a few years back.

But to get back to the comment, one would take a LOT of preparation, tech, and manpower that I don’t really have, and the other I simply will not do.

Trebek’s show could be done but we’d have to engineer around some of the physical set pieces on the show… namely, the isolation booths for the players and the experts. Building them is out of the question. Perhaps we could get the same effect by having players wear blindfolds + noise-cancelling headphones, but that brings up sanitary issues. If we can find a way to basically make players temporarily unable to see/hear when needed, then it’d be workable.

Double Dare on Nick has been one I’ve gotten multiple requests for over the years. I love the show. I loved it as a kid; I loved the reboot. But I can’t create or host it at a convention. Physically, sure. I could write questions and construct physical challenges and obstacles, but what if someone is hurt? What if they have their phone in their pocket and the screen cracks if they fall in the One-Ton Human Hamster Wheel or it gets whipped cream on it while going Down the Hatch? What happens to the con when the hotel finds out about these activities that endanger their meeting room/property? As a former convention runner, I would instantly make sure that show never happened at my con, and I’m not willing to put a con-runner in that same difficult position.

No amount of waivers would protect me personally or the convention from being sued out of existence.

Best I can do is have two teams play the NES adaptation of Double Dare, and I wouldn’t inflict that pain on anyone.